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10 Signs She Is (Looking To Be) Cheating On You!

(Disclaimer: First, let me defend the women by stating that many of them don’t cheat. Especially when she’s in happy relationship. If she’s really into you, it’s obvious. This is just a guideline for men to protect themselves, who may experience the following signs, and are unsure of what really is going on for a period of time, and then get hit by the bad breakup moment that usually comes unexpectedly after. These guys will usually crumble and go into bad depression for months, and some never recover till they die.)

To begin with… here’s a real woman telling you signs to watch out for if a girl is (intends to be) cheating on you:

#1. Protective Over Her Mobile Phone

Signs include having a passcode on when she previously did not, starts to keep her screen away from your sight, having messages at late hours and constantly on them/replying, not focusing on you when you talk to her but on her phone, smiling herself silly with her phone and she is not aware that it’s quite noticeable.

#2. Too Many Girls-Nite Out

Her single friends are looking to get hooked up, or get into relationships. That simply attracts tons of guys to their group when they are hanging out, or go to places that will facilitate these interactions. Guess what… your girl is with them… a lot. Even if she’s loyal, does not prevent some other dude from trying his luck. It’s just real-world.

#3. Super Busy

Can you pop by for a visit and maybe take her out to lunch or dinner without making a formal arrangement? Is she open and welcoming to such a pleasant surprise from her man? Or does she rush you out and postpone your spontaneous gesture? Now, don’t sell yourself short. Make sure you test her on this when she should be able to go out with you. Think hard, is her schedule as open to you as it used to be? You’ll know your woman is cheating if she barely ever has time for you claiming a busy schedule. A woman in love will move aside a mountain just to spend time with her man. But if she is constantly making excuses why she can’t see you or dine with you, then she is dining someone else.

 #4. Frequent Fights & Shorter Fuses

She finds ways to pick fights, and picking on really minor things… and generally having a shorter fuse than normal. It’s a sign that she’s probably using that to end the relationship. Be careful with this one, as it could be genuine work-related stress that is causing it, but otherwise, it’s a clue if it happens every single time.

#5. That “old friend”/ The Mysterious New Friend –

Trying to deflect questions about where she is, is going, and who she is around. Tells u they are just friends/ old friends or keeps it a mystery and justifying with stories that he needs help with “work/girlfriend issues”, etc. With social media and ease-of-connectivity, finding a lost long “ex” is as simple as a google or FB search.

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#6. You No Longer Are A Priority To Her

She starts having a lot more activities “on her own”, some special class that she never quite was interested in, or a new group of social friends that she starts hanging out with all of a sudden. Your fixed nites/plans/dates are replaced by her new interests all-too-often.

#7. She’s Secretive About Her Schedule

She may claim to no longer have time for any extra-curricular activities with you, yet she has one foot out the door the minute one of her girlfriends calls. Either that or she has been “going away on business” one too many times. And when she does leave, her whereabouts are sketchy at best and you are somehow always the last to know. Disclosing her itinerary to you at the last minute and overlooking your plans in the process can mean many things, one of which isn’t that she’s forgetting, but rather leaving you out.

#8. She Puts In More Effort To Look Good

There’s some kind of obvious physical change e.g. hairstyle, type of dressing, and not necessarily caring what your opinion is… in likelihood meant to impress someone whom you are not aware of. Just like how a new relationship is before it starts, both of you were on your “best dress” and “best behaviour”, right?

#9. Not Interested In Sex With You

This is a big one. Any woman’s who has experienced good sex, craves it every single day. When she starts to find excuses to avoid it e.g. tired from work or school, etc, and says it too often… something is very, very wrong. Obvious signs include being less physically intimate, less kissing, cuddly, hand-holding, etc. The fundamental holding gel of all human relationships is sex. No argument there.

#10. Sexier Underwear

When a woman is involved with someone new, she often will go out and purchase sexier bras and panties – because she feels sexier. There is a pleasure women get in being appreciated as a sexual being and will behave a little more sexier… maybe she’s leaving an extra button undone on her blouse or wearing her hair down instead of neatly tied up. Maybe she has changed her perfume (and that could go either way, stronger to cover the scent of his aftershave or lighter because he’s not fond of heavy fragrances). She may also change the way she wears make-up for similar reasons.

In Closing…

There are a lot more “tell-tale” signs that are obvious and more subtle. This is just a rough guideline from our experiences in life, and the relationships we have been in.

There is no perfect relationship. It takes 2 hands to clap, and committed work. Any side that starts to slack and loosen up, will eventually cause an imbalance. Don’t blame. Take responsibility. If it’s worth it, you keep up your end of the stick… (pun intended).

Man up.

In any case, if there is a need to end things, do so like a man. Set your boundaries right from the start. Raise your standards. Lead by example. But never accuse without proper evidence or proof, and definitely watch the words you use when approaching this topic with her.

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Still not convinced? Think it’s never going to happen to you? Feel free to read this book:

women's infidelity

Many women in relationships who have read this book, are in complete agreement with it’s contents, and even cry when they realize how much of it is true for themselves. I know because I have a handful of platonic personal female friends who often share their sexual exploits & stories with me, and cheat on their other half, and always wonder why they keep doing it with no remorse.

I hope this post will help the guys out there who are in similar situations, and are feeling helpless wondering what’s going on. Get educated and be aware, before you get hurt and turn into a woman-hating machine/monster! Be a great guy.

Empower yourselves, guys!

Lead Instructor
ModernMan Academy


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