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Why Men’s Ego Gets In The Way Of Success With Women

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The “I” or self of any person ( ego is Latin for “I”). In psychological terms, the ego is the part of the psyche that experiences the outside world and reacts to it,coming between the primitive drives of the id and the demands of the social environment, represented by the superego.

How we define ego here at ModernMan Academy… is more of the pride AND fears of a man who wants a certain level of success in his dating life, yet does nothing constructive to improve it.

And in many cases, these men choose to disregard help that is available, assuming that they know-how-it-works and what-to-do.

These are guys you constantly hear them say:

“Wow that chick is hot.” – but does nothing about it.

“She’s cute, but nah not my type.” – yet secretly wants her badly.

“I’m too busy with work, no time for girls.” – horrible excuse because we know both genders simply cannot exist without the other (unless in extreme cases like religion or same-gender relationships).

“With money comes women.” – deluded thinking that attracts only the gold-diggers.

“Ugly lah that girl…” – as if he’s the shit and hot stuff with hot babes everywhere… and he’s usually the single one too.

“When I have XYZ in my life, I’ll get the girls I want anytime.” – yet another deluded one who feels unworthy deep within.

And… so on and so forth… you’ve heard them all… pretty lame excuses to avoid having their egos bruised or pride hurt.

Women have since the ages of 12 and up… been discussing boys, men & male psychology at a deeper level, with help of magazines like Cosmo etc… while men have simply been “busy” with sports, “manly” stuff and trying to “make money to get chicks”. Obviously they have had the “upper hand” for a longer time. All the advice men had was the first-class “just be yourself” bullshit. If that works, why aren’t all the men in the world happily dating girls that they like? – ModernMan Academy.

On the other side of the fence…

There’s also a select few… a minority of men, with the proliferation of men’s dating knowledge and real-time workshops… who have actively sought to improve their chances in this dating game, by simply letting go of their pride and ego, and learning how to be truly attractive to women.

This group of men understand the “rules”, the psychology behind what works and why, and are basically armed with sufficient information and skills… to truly go for the kind of women they fancy, and develop meaningful relationships in their lives.

It’s just like learning a new skill.

At first, you suck.

Everyone sucks at the beginning.

But with some guidance, support and a strong belief in yourself, you keep trying.

And within weeks of consistent practice and conscious application… you become rather decent at it.

And next thing you know… success at the skill level you now have… is usually a good and healthy % of the attempts and efforts put in.

Same thing goes for learning to ride a bike, drive a car, fly an airplane, play the guitar, making the sale for a piece of property, or anything else in life that needs time to learn.

At the end of the day, which guy feels more in control of his life?

Guy Beta who gives all the excuses in the world why he’s not getting what he wants (angry and upset at women too)… or Guy Alpha who’s just living his life to the fullest and providing value to everyone he comes in contact with (is the real stud with the ladies)?

If you’re reading this… consider that for a moment.


NOTE: If you found this useful, and need an even more detailed plan of action to take from meeting to dating a girl, you definitely want to check out this post “If “Dating Girls” Is A Subject Taught In Singapore Schools!”… click here!



Over the past 7 years, we at ModernMan Academy have met and helped hundreds of men to overcome those lame excuses.

All that was required from them… was that they wanted to work on it, and take the first step.

Let the ego and pride go. Cut the lame excuses. Take charge and be in control.

If you are ready to receive help, you will find it.

Rule of the universe.

Empower yourselves, guys!

Rooting for you,

Lead Instructor
ModernMan Academy


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